How's the second half of your year starting, Reader?

I hope it's been full of pleasant surprises and growth!

For me, it's been one month since leaving corporate and starting new ventures with coaching and freelance work.

It has been a very humbling experience to witness how attached I was to the steady pay that came every two weeks.

The discomfort has triggered old patterns of emotional avoidance. In the past, I would indulge in mind-altering substances, like alcohol, to ease the discomfort.

Recently, I have noticed I love ice cream a little too much and think it's "easier" to scroll on my phone than to sit and face the discomfort.

The discomfort I catch myself avoiding is the fear of failure. Sure corporate was a false sense of security, yet my mind was still programmed to see it as security, safety, and sustaining.

The paradox is that by avoiding failure, I would unconsciously do things that made me feel like a failure.

What you put your focus on, you will attract.

How crazy that we can attract what WE DON'T WANT when we continuously think about not wanting it?!

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How do we shift this?

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Well, we first recognize our behaviors, WITHOUT JUDGEMENT. To hold judgment against yourself or others entangles you more with whatever you are judging.

Instead, when we see it as data of where we are for now...then, we can look at any situation more objectively and not so emotionally.

Second, take note of how the behavior is supporting you or destroying you (hint: you can have examples for both).

The truth is that if you are continuously engaging in a behavior or thought pattern, then there's a belief that you are benefiting something from it, even if your rational mind doesn't see it that way.

Yet, many of us have difficulty accepting this... I mean, who wants to admit that they are gaining something from a behavior that is destroying them?

But trust me, Reader, this alone will begin to create shifts within you.

Once you discover the "benefit", identify what need you are trying to meet. Is it connection, certainty, or perhaps safety? Once you identify the need, navigate other ways you can meet it more sustainably.

And do them!

You may fail, fall out of habit, or neglect these new ways of being, but with each day you get the opportunity to choose differently.

I have chosen more wrong than right lately, but the way to turn it around is just a decision away.

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If you are tired of feeling stuck in the same patterns and hate being led by your feelings of overwhelm, I invite you to explore what 1:1 coaching with me could look like for you.

​​Click here to discover if this is for you​​

Once you complete it, I will reach out for the next steps.

Here are some things past clients have said:

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"This is the first time that I’ve ever experienced such an amazing connection with inner myself." -Jazzy S.

"I feel like my vision is clear and I have actionable steps to follow to get closer to my dreams. Her ability to make me feel comfortable and vulnerable was so natural" - Afton P.

"Thank you, Nicole, for being an awesome spirit-minded coach – and not just a “Goal & Productivity Coach” like I had for over 15 years in my other coaching groups. "- John P.

"Nicole is a true professional who assisted me bridge the gap between my mind and heart. Forever grateful for her services!"- Manuel Q.

"She is both compassionate and strong in her work. As a coach myself, I was going through a tough time in my life and Nicole was the first person I reached too." - Kate M.

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What do you say Reader? Will you make 2024 the year you rediscover yourself?

The first step is to ​click here​.

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All in Service,

Nicole 🕊️